FAQs

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But aren't you already married? Why have another ceremony

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In a legal sense, yes we are. However, due to the level of extreme caution at the date of our original wedding, we didn't have the required number of unrelated Jewish witnesses to satisfy Halacha (jewish law). And even if that wasn't the case, we both strongly believe that getting married is not just a transaction between the two of us. It is a public declaration of our intent, and 15 people is not public. We are excited to share this milestone in our lives with you!

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Why aren't you getting married on Saturday like normal people?

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Jewish tradition prohibits marriages during Shabbat, our day of rest. We believe that the blessing of one would overshadow the blessing of the other, and that they should each have their own separate space. We could technically get married after sunset, but that's not really practical in August. Also, we'd rather not spend Shabbat in a frenzy of getting ready for the wedding.

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Do we need a car?

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If you are coming to Ann Arbor from out of town we strongly suggest you stay at the Inn at the Michigan League. It is located in the center of downtown near food, entertainment, and bus lines. A stay there includes parking. If you are coming from the airport (there are only a few of you!) there is a shuttle service from both terminals of DTW to the Blake Transit Center in downtown Ann Arbor. Information on schedules and booking can be found here https://www.michiganflyer.com/ScheduleRoute.aspx .There are public busses that run from there to right in front of the League, or you can walk (it takes about 10-15 minutes).

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What happens at a Jewish Wedding

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There are several parts to a Jewish wedding that differ significantly from a Christian one. They include the signing of a Ketubah, the Chuppah, circling the groom, the drinking of ceremonial cups of wine, the saying of specific blessings and the breaking of a glass. We will address these here as we meet with the Rabbi and make decisions about how we incorporate all of the traditions into our ceremony.

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What should I wear?

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The "dress-code" for our wedding will be semi-formal. This means a nice cocktail dress (or fancy pants) for women and a suit and tie for men. But you don't need to buy a brand new formal gown. Just come in something pretty and comfortable and be ready to dance the night away!

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Can our kids come?

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We love you, and your kids. But we have a big family, and there are a LOT of people on the list. If they're not on the invitation and you still want to bring them into town feel free. But we won't have a spot for them at the reception. If you don't feel comfortable leaving your kids on their own for the afternoon/evening, we can put you in touch with local babysitters.