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September 15, 2020
New York, NY
#FirstComesCovidThenComesMarriage

FIRST COMES COVID, THEN COMES MARRIAGE

    Rosebud-Andy
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Andy Haynes

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Rosebud Baker

#FirstComesCovidThenComesMarriage

September 15, 2020

New York, NY

First Comes Covid, Then Comes Marriage

To All Our Friends and Loved Ones

We created this site to share all the photos and stories from our wedding with our friends and loved ones who couldn't be there because of the pandemic. First: How We Met We met about 3 years ago on New Years Eve, at a place called Bar Matchless in Brooklyn. Andy had just moved back to New York from LA, walked up to Rosebud and said "Hi, I'm Andy, I'm a comic and I'm sober too." Totally normal opening line. Rosebud decided he probably wasn't very fun to hang out with. Maybe it's because he introduced himself like they were at a 12 step meeting instead of a New Years Eve party. But, like most of her assumptions, Rosebud was wrong. We became fast friends, and started dating in October of 2019. Within 6 months, we'd traveled and performed together all over the country (and globe! - we went to England once) making each other laugh every day. On March 16th, the 3rd day of the quarantine in L.A., we got engaged. Andy proposed with Rosebud's Grandmother Mimi's ring, hiding it in a to-go box while watching Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind. He asked if she was surprised; she was not. Originally we'd planned to get married at City Hall in September, with a big party to follow, with all of our extended family and friends all over the country. But because of Covid, and our governments spot-on handling of the pandemic, we weren't able to do that. So in lieu, we've posted everything from our celebration right here, which we felt would be a nice way of including all of you in our memories of the day. We know it's not the same as an in-person reception, but trust me: if you think this pandemic is a disaster, you should see Rosebud's wedding planning skills. We love each and every one of you, and we're grateful to share this with you, even digitally, and in spirit. -Rosebud and Andy

Our Ceremony

Our ceremony took place under the arch in Washington Square Park, in the neighborhood of Greenwich Village. Centered on Washington Square Park, Greenwich Village is a neighborhood made legendary by the world famous artists, musicians, and writers that have flourished and created within steps of its arch. Scroll down to read our vows:)

Rosebud’s Vows

Andy, I fell so blindly in love with you that it was easy to ignore how much we look like siblings. The first night we ever really hung out, I called my best friend and said “Whatever happened with andy last night, I want to have that kind of fun with my husband.” I’ll never forget the first time we hooked up, and you asked Alexa to play Jodeci before you took your shirt off. I can’t wait to spend my life laughing with you and at you as hard as I did then. When I’m with you I want to say yes to everything, which is probably why we’re getting married where they shot the movie KIDS. When I sat down to work on my vows I went back in my journal to the beginning of our relationship and I found an entry about you. This is what it says: “I hardly recognize myself anymore, I feel sweet, and safe, and open and kind. I want to spend every day together with Andy. I’ve heard that when people meditate, they can experience overwhelming compassion and love, unattached to their own ego or story, and that’s how I feel about him. I love him the way a dog would love him. I’m so happy, and so unafraid of showing it.” Andy, I can’t believe how lucky I feel to be your wife. I promise you fearless love, and impossible joy. To honor your independence and your solitude, to encourage your growth, to respect and accept the changes you make without insecurity, and to grow and change with you, in multiple ways. I promise to meet life on its own terms, just as we have every day up to now. I swear never to lie to you or abandon myself out of convenience, and to protect our love from self-destruction. I promise to have fun, to be silly, and to challenge you (to a duel, when this is over) and to accept and love you, today, tomorrow and forever. You’re my best thing.

Andy’s Vows

Rosie, This feels silly. There are not enough words to describe the way I feel about you. I think it would be like asking me to find a vessel to hold the ocean. Words are just insufficient, but I’ll try. That night at Dan’s wedding, I saw you and I began to dance (you said looked like a blow up doll caught in a windstorm), and we’ve never stopped. For those few hours, and since then, I felt like I could be me. For the first time, the world faded, the chaos quieted, and I was free. We’ve been to London and Alabama, we’ve lived in five different houses and a dozen hotel rooms, and despite the pandemic, the recession, and Mouse peeing on everything we value, I can really say that the last eleven months have been the most fun I’ve had in my entire life. I am myself when I am with you, and that is all I have ever wanted. You believe in me, when I can’t, and you love when I’m silly. I promise to be patient. I promise to not keep my resentments from you. I promise to celebrate your successes as my own. I promise to always treat you like your best self and forgive you when you’re not. I promise to always tell you you are beautiful, even when we’re old and soft and our skin has weird spots and sores. A lot of people say in sickness and in health, and of course, unless you’re like a vegetable, and then I’ll probably visit occasionally. I promise to make our lives special, to take you on adventures, and never take you for granted. I promise not to bring up that I do most of the cleaning and laundry, and still walk the dogs about fifty percent of the time. I promise to not keep score, to not hold things against you, and aspire to love you even when you act like you don’t love me. Rosemary Baker, you are my BEST THING. My best friend. And if I get to spend the rest of my life with you, I will be the luckiest man alive.

The Reception

Reception took place at The Comedy Cellar’s Olive Tree outdoor dining area. We drove up in an old New York City checker cab, everyone drank and ate pizza from Joe's, and afterwards, we cut the cake. Pictures were taken by our talented friend Matty Noir, aka @pbsthephotographer.

The Surprise Afterparty

After the ceremony and reception, Andy organized a surprise after-party for Rosebud with the help of her friend Mikala Lee. The party took place on Mikala’s roofdeck, complete with a DJ and disco ball, so that we could have our first dance as a couple. We couldn't decide on a song, but our deliberation was cut short by our friends' spontaneous a-cappella rendition of KC & JoJo’s All My Life, which the DJ quickly jumped in on.

ANITA

For her safety, Andy's mother Anita wasn't able to be with us physically on the wedding day, but she was with us in spirit! And we wanted to put a special thank you note here to her, for enabling us to spend our honeymoon in the beautiful city of Tulum, Mexico. It was absolutely the best vacation we've had, in fact, the only vacation we've had, in QUITE a long time, and we'll remember it forever. We love you Anita!

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