We love kids- we really do! However, if your kids were not on the invitation we ask only the parents to come. With our large families and limited space at the venue we cannot accommodate for all of the sweet kids in our lives.
If your invitations says "and Guest" then yes. If not we prefer it is just you.
Cocktail, please. But we want you to feel comfortable, so if those shoes are too high or that top button is too tight, let it all hang loose.