FAQs (Queeries)
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What are your COVID-19 precautions going to be?
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We request that all guests be fully vaccinated if they are medically cleared and able to be so. We also ask people to bring a face mask for going through food lines at mealtimes. The majority of the weekend will be outdoors, including the ceremony. There will be plenty of space for those who desire social distance to have as much room as they need. We will have hand sanitizer available at both of the main indoor spaces. Indoor spaces are very well ventilated.
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Does the party last all weekend?
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Absolutely! You're welcome to come anytime after 4pm on Friday, and stay through Sunday morning at 11am. Can't stay the whole time? Join us for whatever part of the weekend you're able! (Preferably at least the ceremony on Saturday :) )
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What should we bring for the weekend?
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Other than the regular clothes/toiletries stuff and a few masks, please bring... * Bedding if you're staying in cabins (or let Robyn and Fawkes know you need some if you're coming from out of town) * Camping gear if you're pitching a tent (or borrow one of our tents if you prefer!) * Swimsuits, sunscreen, bug repellent (heavy mosquito presence confirmed!), hat, and sunglasses * Whatever "wedding clothes" you choose-- anything goes, from super casual to fancy! * A warm layer in case nights get chilly around the campfire * A dish to share for the Friday night potluck if you're willing and able * Libations for yourself (The whole weekend is BYOB!) * An instrument if you want to jam at the fire * A flashlight, especially if you're staying on site * A full packing list is included on the email sent 7/29
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Robyn and Fawkes identify as “queer”. What does that mean?
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Queer* is an umbrella term used by lots of LGBTQIA+ folks to describe a range of identities that are NOT straight and cisgender (cisgender means a person's gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth). More specifically, Robyn identifies as a queer woman and uses she/her/hers pronouns (ex. Robyn likes to square dance with her friends whenever she can). Fawkes identifies as genderqueer and uses they/them/theirs pronouns (ex. Fawkes loves their collection of Star Wars pajamas almost as much as they love puppies). *It's important to note that not all individuals that belong to the LGBTQIA+ community are comfortable with the word "queer." It's a word that has been reclaimed, especially by younger generations, but has historically been used as a (particularly hurtful) slur. Please be conscious of how you use the word when interacting with others throughout the weekend.
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How can I be a supportive ally to the LGBTQIA+ couple and guests?
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First of all, thanks for reading this! It's so important that our wedding is a welcoming, safe environment for our friends and family of all genders and orientations. Here are a few ways you can help us create that environment: 1. When you meet someone new, share your pronouns and ask for theirs. (Ex. "Hi, I'm Robyn. I use she/her pronouns. How about you?" or "What pronouns do you use?") 2. Try to avoid gendered language like calling a group of people "ladies." Instead, use gender-neutral language like "folks," "friends," "everyone," or "y'all." 3. If you hear others misgendering folks, casually and politely correct them. (Ex. "They use they/them pronouns.") 4. Be open, respectful, and ask questions. (Ex. "Can I ask you how you identify? What does that term mean to you?") 5. If you make a mistake, correct yourself but don't make a big deal about it. (Ex. If you accidentally say "He's over by the cabin," try saying, "Sorry. They're over by the cabin.")
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I've never been to a queer wedding. What should I expect?
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A wedding is, at its core, a celebration of a loving relationship, and a queer wedding is no different! We've invited you because we want you to share in the celebration and support the life we're building together. You can expect lots of fun in the sun, laughter around a campfire, meeting friends from all the parts of our lives, and a ceremony that reflects our passion, love, and incredible network of friends and family. It will be a non-religious ceremony with many personal touches contributed by our talented loved ones. Be ready for a great weekend! To help you understand what a queer wedding might be like, our stellar friends found this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtgY1q0J_TQ And if you still have questions, don't hesitate to reach out!
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What the heck is kubb??
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Kubb is a game wherein players, belonging to two opposing teams, take turns trying to knock down wooden blocks belonging to the other team. In classic Scandinavian fashion, it involves throwing wooden things at other wooden things, is best played with a beer (or other drink) in hand, and is at the same time overly simple and really hard to win. Fawkes and Robyn have built two kubb sets as part of our weekend fun, so read up on the rules (http://www.kubbunited.com/rules-of-kubb) and get ready for some intense lawn gaming.
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I haven’t received an invitation! What should I do?
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In an effort to save paper (and reduce some costs), we’re sending all of our invitations via email. If you haven’t yet received an emailed invitation, it could be for one of the following reasons: 1. Robyn's email address triggered your spam filter, and the invite is subsequently floating around in your junk folder. Check in there! 2. We don’t have your email address! Although we’re trying to get everyone’s email addresses proactively, it’s possible we missed you. (Sorry!) If you think this has happened, reach out to one of us! Alternatively, if you know the couple through Fawkes, check your Facebook messages - Fawkes doesn't have the majority of peoples' emails and will likely reach out via Facebook or text to get invites out to people. Either way, if you haven’t received an emailed invitation from us and you’re concerned, just let us know. We’ll also follow up with people who haven’t responded, when the time comes.