We are waiting a bit to go on our honeymoon. But, we want to treat ourselves to a relaxing weekend trip to Asheville for two nights right after the wedding to relax and reminisce. We are calling it our Mini-Moon, and this fund will go toward paying for the hotel accommodations. Treat Yourself 2017! (Bonus points if you get that reference.) Thank you for your generosity!

We are severely judging ourselves while admitting this, but we thought a couples massage might be relaxing. And we have never been to the Grove Park! We heard their spa is top notch. Money from this fund will be used to purchase these massages. Thank you for your generosity and for making our super cheesy dreams come true!

We know that many of our friends are talented artists. We would love to benefit from your gifts! Quilts? Throws? A song? A poem? A macrame wall hanging? All of these would make us so happy, and would help brighten and beautify our home and life. (By the way, no need to contribute cash ... just your work of art. Email us if you need a shipping address)

Would you rather give us an experience? If you'd like to add some extra fun to our date nights, we are happy to provide some ideas and would absolutely LOVE something unique from you. We love concerts and culture. (A few of our past favorites have included Bob Dylan [thanks to the generosity of Allison's dad], David Sedaris [so intellectual] and the Book of Mormon [never laughed so hard]) Gift certificates to The Carolina Theatre? http://www.carolinatheatre.org/tickets/gift-cards That sounds fantastic. Gift certificates to DPAC? https://www.dpacnc.com/events-tickets/gift-certificates Equally amazing! We frequent both of those venues. We also enjoy trying out a new (or beloved) Durham restaurant, so would love to receive gift certificates for a night out at your favorite place. Email us if you need a shipping address.

Color: gray mist You will be directed to the Pottery Barn website to purchase and ship this gift.

Color: gray mist You will be directed to the Pottery Barn website to purchase and ship this gift.

Paul and I already have so much. This wedding, and our union, is bigger than us. It's about being a member of a community and striving to make that community better than we found it. We have a few charities that are important to us and we'd love to honor them on our special day. If you contribute to this fund, every cent of your money will go to Urban Ministries of Durham. This local non profit connects poor and homeless neighbors to food, shelter and a future. Learn more at: http://umdurham.org/

Paul and I already have so much. This wedding, and our union, is bigger than us. It's about being a member of a community and striving to make that community better than we found it. We have a few charities that are important to us and we'd love to honor them on our special day. If you contribute to this fund, every cent of your money will go to The Durham Literacy Center, which is a 30 year old organization dedicated to empowering Durham County residents who want to improve their lives and the lives of their families by improving their literacy skills. To check out more about this organization, watch their video "Prosperity for all in Durham," at: http://www.durhamliteracy.org/single-post/2017/05/01/Prosperity-for-all-in-Durham

Paul and I already have so much. This wedding, and our union, is bigger than us. It's about being a member of a community and striving to make that community better than we found it. We have a few charities that are important to us and we'd love to honor them on our special day. If you contribute to this fund, your money will go to The Southern Poverty Law Center. This non-profit organization combats hate, intolerance and discrimination through education and litigation. Learn more at: https://www.splcenter.org/

So excited for this dutch oven, size 5.5 Quart, color: Ocean.

You will be redirected to the Williams Sonoma website to purchase this. Our color is "ocean"

First off, ramekins are the best. Second, these can be used to bake small dishes like souffles or small dips. Third, they are our favorite color, "Ocean!" You will be directed to the Williams-Sonoma website to purchase and ship this gift.

This feels so decadent, but we are excited to start our collection of copper cookware. For clarification: something that's labeled as a "group gift" means that a group of people can pitch in towards one gift, or one person may purchase it on their own.

Am I #basic if I am totally excited about this mixer? Rhetorical question ... **For clarification: something that's labeled as a "group gift" means that a group of people can pitch in towards one gift, or one person may purchase it on their own**

It's just better than using a spoon. Right?

We have the most old-looking, tired cutting boards that Paul has owned since his 20s in Los Angeles and we would love some fresh new ones!

Because, I mean .... waffles, duh. (You can't watch as much Parks & Rec as we do and not crave waffles all the time ...)

So gorgeous we might just display them when we're not using them ...

Paul has already looked up several videos on how to best care for a cast iron skillet. I'm serious.

This matches one of our bookshelves and we are so excited to use it for entertaining! For clarification: something that's labeled as a "group gift" means that a group of people can pitch in towards one gift, or one person may purchase it on their own.

I hate to admit this, but I love platters. I want #alltheplatters

Ideal for hosting. You will be directed to the Crate & Barrel website to purchase and ship this gift.

When I look at this dish, I like imagining all of the snack combo options. You will be redirected to the Crate & Barrel website to purchase this gift.

Paul and I love hosting and will be so pleased to have this gorgeous flatware to use with guests.

I have been wanting these cute tiny bowls for years! I want to display one on my kitchen windowsill and use them for dips and snack bowls. Love this color combination!

We are pretty excited to upgrade our mishmash collection of wine glasses

"I'm very important. I have many leather-bound books and my apartment smells of rich mahogany." - Ron Burgundy, Anchorman (i.e. how we will feel when we are drinking out of these classy glasses)

Like something Jay Gatsby would use

Paul makes cakes for all of his friends birthdays and early on in our relationship he made me a delicious carrot cake for my birthday! We are excited to be able to display those cakes nicely on this beautiful jade stand.

You can truly never have enough platters! (According to my mom. Who knows these things.)

I find vacuum cleaners totally intimidating but I think this handy little thing will get the job done!

Fishs Eddy is one of my favorite places to browse in NYC. I always wanted these cute retro flower bowls!

Using these will feel like going to the Container Store, which is the best feeling in the world.

We are big tea drinkers and would love a way to actually organize our many boxes of tea. (Our current method of organization is severely lacking)

Using these Pyrex containers will ensure that we eat our delicious leftovers. Help us upgrade from ziploc!

We love hosting friends and family, so having wine delivered at home for 3 months will be so much easier and more fun than going to the store!

Paul and I love staying in airbnbs when we travel. Help us go on our next adventure and we will update you with a pic when we get there! :)

We have a jumble of plates and dishes from many periods of our life. It might be time to have things that match :) You will be directed to the Crate and Barrel website to purchase and ship this gift.

You will be directed to the Crate and Barrel website to purchase and ship this gift.

These plates are even prettier in person. You will be directed to the Crate and Barrel website to purchase and ship this gift.

You will be directed to the Crate & Barrel website to purchase and ship this gift.

You will be directed to the Crate & Barrel website to purchase and ship this gift.

Channeling the '70s with this awesome tulip salad bowl!

We'd love an extra set of towels for when we have guests. These are the SOFTEST towels. Our guests will be very happy. Color: gray mist. You will be directed to the Pottery Barn website to purchase and ship this gift.

You will be directed to the Pottery Barn website to purchase and ship this gift.

This is embarrassing to admit but I have been coveting these furry pillows for years. We love this pillow in the Rosette color. You will be directed to the west elm website to purchase and ship this gift.

This is the insert for the furry pillow. You will be directed to the west elm website to purchase and ship this gift.

Our sofas are embarrassingly bare. Help us make them even more comfy -- and then come over and visit!

Have you ever read that Onion article "Girlfriend to Stay Under Blanket for Next 5 Months" because that is me. You will be directed to the Pottery Barn website to purchase and ship this gift yourselves.

The perfect place to balance snacks and drinks on our patio!

Paul only has one more culinary skill to master: grilling. Aid him in his quest!

We would love some indestructible tumblers for outside use!

Perfect for a weekend at the beach or the lake, and because it has wheels Allison can help too!